Most of the Christian dating concepts that we think about have been formed by what we see on TV or in the movies but it is up to us, as Christians to chose how we are influenced by the world around us. Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will- his good, pleasing and perfect will.” So instead of allowing the media, the world, or the people around us to tell us what our standards should be, we should look to the Bible and God’s word to guide us.
Although God does not have a checklist per se, the Bible does set down some simple guidelines to consider. Remember, rules were made by God not to intimidate Christians, but to help us set safe boundaries so that we do not go astray. Try to keep an open mind.
Maintain the right focus. God should be your first love. Don’t enter a relationship if you are searching for love; enter a relationship if you are willing to give love. If you feel empty inside and are searching for someone to fill that void, dating is not the solution. Allow Jesus to fill you with his love, and then give love to others. Also, check your intentions, date with the intent to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, not Mr. or Mrs. Right now.
Who should you date? 2 Corinthians 6:14 says “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what
do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
Think about it, in Deuteronomy 22:10 they use the example of plowing with an ox and a donkey. Two
different animals shouldn’t be yoked together because these animals have different natures and
different strengths and abilities. If you were to put them together, your field would be a mess because
they are not equally matched. The same goes for a believer and a non-believer.
Set up boundaries. Live in relationships, premarital sex and fornication are considered so casually that
it is easy to forget that it is a sin. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says “flee from sexual immorality.” Remember that
your body is a temple of the Holy spirit who is in you. You were bought at a price, so honor God with
your body. Avoid temptation. Honor God in your relationship and He will honor you and your partner.
These are just a few of the guidelines Christians have. If the foundation is strong, the building will stand
firm. Remember to look to Gods will, not the standards of the media or the world around us and you will
be a better person and a stronger Christian for it.